You can only afford to be generous if you actually have some money in the bank to give. In the same way, if your only source of love and meaning is your spouse, then anytime he or she fails you, it will not just cause grief but a psychological cataclysm. If, however, you know something of the work of the Spirit in your life, you have enough love "in the bank" to be generous to your spouse even when you are not getting much affection or kindness at the moment. Timothy J. Keller
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You can only afford to be generous if you actually have some money in the bank to give. This is an old saying that was true in the past and it is also true in the present. If your spouse does not believe in spending money on yourself, then you cannot afford to be generous. You cannot afford to give them gifts or even buy them things because you will not have any money left over.

In the same way, if your only source of love and meaning is your spouse, then anytime he or she fails you, it will not just cause grief but a psychological cataclysm. If, however, you know something of the work of the Spirit in your life, you have enough love "in the bank" to be generous to your spouse even when you are not getting much affection or kindness at the moment. You will still be able to be a loving and caring person even if they do not return those feelings back to you.

Source: The Meaning Of Marriage: Facing The Complexities Of Commitment With The Wisdom Of God

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